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Communicating with your ex after the divorce

On Behalf of | Oct 26, 2022 | Divorce

Communication is often a factor when couples in New Jersey get divorced. In many cases, the spouses struggled to communicate for years, and the distance between them continued to grow. Eventually, the breakdown in communication also made it impossible for couples to resolve their conflicts. Divorce might seem like a relief from this. However, couples will often need to continue to communicate after the divorce is finalized, particularly if they have children together. While their romantic relationship has ended, jointly raising children after the divorce means that they need to figure out how to communicate with each other effectively.

Communicating after divorce

After the end of the marriage, couples who need to continue to communicate will need to figure out the best way for them. This can involve a variety of methods, including:

  • Phone calls
  • Voice mail messages
  • Emails
  • Text messages
  • Face to face
  • Family communication applications

Particularly as divorced couples raise children, they will normally use a mixture of these methods. However, if communication is not approached carefully, they can fall into the same high-conflict dynamics that might have played a part in their divorce.

Keep it friendly and respectful

While you might not want to be in constant contact with your ex-spouse, you will need to share information with them. It is important to set clear limits about how often you communicate, how fast to expect responses and the topics you will need to communicate about. When you and your ex-spouse communicate, whether in person or through the various other methods, your communication should be clear, respectful and honest. Your tone should be warm, to avoid unnecessary conflicts.

A breakdown in communication might have played a role in your divorce, but it does not need to continue complicating your relationship with your ex-spouse. The correct type of communication can also help your children perceive their parents as united and committed to the family.