Going through a contentious divorce can be emotionally and financially draining. If your ex is a narcissist, you can likely expect to have to deal with that type of situation. They are probably going to try everything they can to make everything go their way.
There are a few things that may help you as you go through this situation. The goal is to protect yourself while avoiding giving your ex complete control over your future through the divorce.
Keep communication brief
Limiting communication when you’re dealing with a narcissist is critical. Conversations should be limited strictly to matters related to the divorce. You’ll also need to talk about the children if you have any
Narcissists thrive on conflict and emotional reactions, so it’s always best to avoid showing any emotion during discussions. Using a neutral, business-like tone can help to minimize the power they gain from the conversation. It may be beneficial to use written communication so you can carefully craft each message.
Set clear boundaries
A narcissist will always try to push boundaries, but you still must set them. This could mean that you don’t respond to hostile messages or refuse to comply with last-minute demands. The more boundaries you set, the more they will push for complete control over every aspect of your life, so be prepared for that.
Protect yourself
Dealing with a narcissist can be draining, especially when you’re already dealing with the stress of the divorce. You’ll have to take specific steps to protect yourself. These could include keeping receipts for payments related to the divorce or documenting conversations. Narcissists tend to live in their own world and twist the truth, so always be prepared to defend the truth.
Divorcing a narcissist can be complex, partially because they’ll try to prolong the divorce by being unwilling to compromise. Working with someone who can help you learn the options available and protect yourself throughout the divorce is beneficial in these cases.