Children whose parents are divorcing have to learn to make a lot of changes. One of the most significant is learning how to live between two homes instead of in one home. It’s up to each parent, including the one who kept the marital home, to ensure that the children have what they need to do this.
There are several ways that you can help your children as they adjust to living in two homes. These options may make it easier to find ways to help them.
Help them understand the schedule
It may be beneficial for you to help the children learn what the schedule is. This gives them a chance to prepare for transition days, which are often the hardest days for them. Some children struggle with the sadness of leaving one parent despite the joy of seeing the one that they’ve been missing.
Give them their own space
Having their own space can make each house feel like their home. If possible, allow them to help decorate the room, even if it’s just choosing the wall color or where the furniture goes. If they won’t have a room to themselves, make sure that they have a dedicated place where they can safely keep their belongings.
Establish routines and traditions
Children thrive on consistency, so establishing routines and consistency is beneficial. This doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. Knowing that they’ll have the first night at your house to relax and have pizza or play games as a family may help them during this adjustment.
It’s best to have the parenting plan set as soon after the split as possible. This can provide you and your ex with the guidelines to keep things consistent. Working with someone familiar with your circumstances and your child’s needs may be beneficial.